Stressful events are always part of a person’s life. It may be an expected or an unexpected occurrence in one’s life. Nevertheless, stress brings discomfort and fatigue to people’s daily routines. Stress can come in different forms and gravity. When incidents happen, people tend to mentally assess the situation. If these events are perceived to bring imminent danger or threat, the mind automatically process the incident to determine what is needed to be done and the skills to be utilized in order to confront the situation.
More so, when these incidents appear to be manageable, it can be labeled as not stressful. However, when these situations are deemed uncontrollable or challenging to one’s capabilities, people tend to brand these events as stressful that usually respond with a “stress response” (Canadian Mental Health Association, “Stress: What is it? ”). More so, the reaction towards a stressful event is correlated with peoples varying coping skills. So in every occasion, people can react differently on same situations(Canadian Mental Health Association, “Stress: What is it? ).
In addition, stress can be perceived as negative or positive depending on one’s perception about the situation. But most often than not people tend to entertain or dwell on events that are considered threatening thus the occurrence of stress. Most people say that they are stressed because they are overworked, transferring to another school, celebrating holidays, having financial burden and others. But the most difficult situation that a person can experience that can lead to stress is death of a love one particularly family members.
Losing someone who is close and dear to you is a tough situation to experience and what it is more difficult in these kind of situations is coping with the problem. In this case, death of a family member causes the manifestation of stress whether emotionally, psychologically or socially. The extreme effects of this type of stress on a person are having manic depression and suicidal tendencies. Response and attitude towards a stressful event are major indicators of how people will handle that particular situation.
Experiencing a death in the family requires a lot of adjustment and understanding. One can either the be in denial, accept the situation in a pessimistic point of view or embrace this tragic event and move on with life. All of these are possible reactions that a person can prefer to do in dealing with stress. The reason behind the denial response is the rejection of reality that someone have passed away. Knowing that you could never see or feel that particular someone is something that is very disheartening that often people tend to mask the situation by not accepting the reality.
Another type of response in this kind of situation is acknowledging the stressful situation but with pessimism. People usually accept the death of a family number but are stressed by their insecurities and adjustments. They tend to dwell on the gloomy side of the situation. Different emotions can arise such as anger, isolation, detachment and weariness. All these negativity hinder people from recuperating with stressful situations. Another scenario that is usually not desired to do by people experiencing tragic events is the acceptance of reality and moving on with one’s life.
This is the most difficult action to do because it entail a lot of willingness and motivation to go on with life. To effectively and successfully overcome these stressful and tragic events, one must learn how to manage stress. First, one must determine the cause of the stress then after knowing the symptoms, changes must be done in one’s lifestyle. Change is good because it gives people the chance to modify thing that are not helping them to become better.
In line with this, people suffering from stress must direct their actions or routines towards relaxation to avoid having a negative aura. This can be done by going to spas, having massages, exercising, eating a balanced diet, interacting with other people and resting (Canadian Mental Health Association, “18 Tips for Dealing With Stress and Tension”). But the most important thing to remember when coping up with stress is to look at things in a positive way and try to enjoy life to the fullest without any worries or apprehension.